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The 4 scripts I give women who are done having the same fight
The exact words for the four moments that decide where a hard conversation goes, so the next one ends with you two on the same side.
Jessica Waclawski · 15+ years · 1,000+ clients
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Your scripts arrive first. Then a few letters from me on how to use them best.
"To finally have language to guide me in hard moments helped totally shift us out of conflict."
Sarah
New topic every time.
Same fight underneath.
You find out from the shared calendar that they booked a business trip over your anniversary weekend.
You say, lightly, "Saw the trip."
They say, "It's one weekend."
You tell yourself, they forgot. Again. I'm last on the list.
They hear you're failing me.
Twenty minutes later you're arguing about the ski trip from three years ago, and neither of you knows how you got there.
Underneath the calendar are the questions you've both been asking for years: Do I still matter to you? Are you still with me?
One miss is a paper cut. A thousand of them, and two people who love each other end up more protected than connected.
What's inside
A script for each moment where the pattern can turn
01
The Pause
The words to stop a fight for 20 minutes without either of you feeling left.
Use it when your voice is rising and theirs has gone flat.
02
The Reach
What to say in the hours after a blowup or a shutdown, before the gap turns into a story about what it meant.
Use it the morning after, when you're both acting normal.
03
The Ask
How to say what the argument is really about, as a need your partner can move toward.
Use it right before you say "it's fine."
04
The Debrief
How to describe the cycle out loud, together, once you're both calm.
Use it on a calm evening, when you can both stay curious.
Plus what to leave unsaid in each moment, written for whichever one you are: the one who reaches, or the one who retreats.
Each script works from your side first, whether or not your partner has read a word.
Who's behind the scripts
Jessica Waclawski
Relationship specialist · Certified Emotionally Focused Practitioner
I've sat with over 1,000 people in the exact moments these scripts are for. I name what's happening underneath, precisely, and give you words you can say mid-conflict, while your body is already bracing.
The next conflict is coming.Have the words ready.
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